Let me introduce myself, I am Alison and I am a stay at home mom with 3
kids. I have a son who is 10, a son who is 6 and a daughter who is 2.
My boys are in 4th grade and kindergarten. Until now they have been
educated through the public school system. I just withdrew them and we
begin home school on 1/7/08.
Why home school? Well, first off for me it is purely academic. No
religious factors whatsoever. Both my husband and I are products of
the public school system and did not have good experiences. As our
oldest approached school age, we were not in a position to send him to
private school and I had many misconceptions about home schooling, so
we sent him to kindergarten with all of his neighborhood buddies. We
live in a pretty upscale area and have a pretty good school. As he
progressed from K-3rd we had issues arise, and had my son tested for
all kinds of things. No real problems were identified, but we kept a
close eye on him. Because of some of his struggles, his workload was
modified (made easier) and he was in slower classes. Once he hit 4th
grade it all came to a head. Getting a little behind in an area has a
cumulative effect at this age and the gap got wider and wider until he
was failing classes. His weakness in reading was bleeding over into
other subjects. Once again the public school system's answer was to
give him easier work. That is when I realized that sitting in a group
of thirty kids, trying to get by was not going to cut it for him. What
he is learning right now is the foundation for the person he will
become - academically, socially, emotionally - and he wasn't getting
what he needed. I can not wait until we have more money and send him
to private school. This is it, he is learning it now and so I had to
take action. Meanwhile, this idea of home schooling was in the back of
my head. I knew of a couple of people who did it and I thought I would
look into it. After my research, I decided this is what was best for
us, so why wait. That decision (to not wait until the end of the
school year) was my first "think outside the box" moment in regards to
home schooling. Why should my school go by their calendar? I am in
charge now!
My concerns about homeschooling... Before I began to give it any
serious consideration, I had my misconceptions which were quickly
dispelled. First, being in the south, the "bible belt", I was afraid
that any social groups or home schooling support groups would be all
serious religious fanatics who did not believe in science. Not true at
all, I have found several secular groups, both locally and internet
based who welcome all walks of life. Second, I thought it would cost a
fortune. Now don't get me wrong, you can spend a ton and it is easy to
get resentful about your tax dollars going to schools that you don't
use. But I have found an extensive network of online, local and other
resources that are very cheap or free. I have no fear that my kids
will be getting an inferior education because of the money I choose to
spend. Finally, my last fear was for myself- will I have any time
alone again? will my kids listen to me like they will a teacher? will
I be organized enough? how can I teach with a toddler around? Now,
some of these answers will come with time, but after joining groups,
speaking to others and reading other peoples experiences, I feel a lot
more confident in myself.
For those of you reading this who have been down this road before me, I
know you are just laughing and thinking "just you wait!" One thing I
am sure of, is that I have no idea what to expect, but I am up for the
adventure and so are my kids.
